If you don’t have a partner, go wild, do what you like! It’ll take trial and error to get the position that feels right, whether squatting, leaning right over, propping yourself up sideways on pillows or having a good go at it in the shower.
If anal penetration is definitely off limits for you or your partner, it doesn’t mean you’ve reached a cul-de-sac you can still access your prostate pleasure centre through your perineum (the fleshy part between your balls and butt) although you’ll need a keen hand and some deep pressure, so a toy or massager would be an extra help here. Using these together can be fun, especially if there’s a toy for them too, so you can expand each other’s horizons at the same time. If they’re not keen to step up or reluctant to get busy with their fingers – not the end of the world if they’ve got huge talons, I guess – then look at sex toys or massagers. Imagine, perhaps, seeing their face right at that moment or wanting to feel them close as your prostate-enabled orgasm makes your head fly off. Make sure your partner is included in it in some way. Another way in, so to speak, could be to talk about your fantasies. Maybe start by playing it slightly innocent and saying you were reading a piece online – perhaps this one! – about the prostate and wondered what stimulating it would be like. To make it happen, you need to start a dialogue around your… um, as yet untapped opening. Does it scare you to think you can’t control the thrusts for a change, that you’ll never know the force, the frequency until it’s happening, inside you, at their whim? Or does it excite you? It’s overly simplistic to say someone being penetrated is always submissive and the person doing the penetrating is in charge – bottoms can dominate too – but it’s likely a woman pegging you will enjoy the shift in the scenario, reaching perhaps uncharted levels of intimacy and pleasure.
You’re not giving anything up, you’re not showing a weakness. What are you really worried about? Looking like less of a man? Submitting or being brutalised? Pah, get over yourself. Being buggered senseless in pursuit of a better orgasm shouldn’t be seen as selfish or perverted the woman pegging you rightly has to get something out of it too. So much of hetero sex 101 obsesses over a man penetrating a woman that it ignores the exciting change of dynamic switching things up can bring. Strap-ons have been around for centuries and pegging – a man being penetrated by a woman – doesn’t make you gay. All your nonsensical insecurities – and so many of the world’s man-made ills, I feel – could be cured very quickly with a good pegging